So often, people focus on their physical bodies before anything else. It makes sense, really. Every time you get dressed you think about it. Every time you look in the mirror you think about it. Every time you go clothes shopping, you think about it. Every time you hang out with friends you might be in better shape than you, you think about it. Every time you watch TV or a movie or read a magazine, you think about. We are constantly comparing ourselves to what we feel is a “healthy” body and for many, that comparison is stressful. If they could just lose some weight, then they are certain they would “feel” better, look better, have more confidence – they would be so much happier. While it is true being healthy will contribute to each of those things, the size of your body isn’t going to miraculously change your thinking or outlook on life. I’ve met a lot of miserable, depressed skinny people in my life. Trust me, size isn’t your real issue.
The reality is, unless you work on your outlook of life NOW, you will most likely will never reach your weight loss goals – at least not in a healthy fashion. Ever wonder why you just can’t seem to get the weight off? Like you live your life on a cycle of diets and misery – balancing between somewhat motivated to change to you-just-dont-care-anymore? Do you feel you’ve tried every diet out there and none of them work? You explain to people that clearly you have a horrible metabolism. You ask your doctor to get your thyroid tested. Again. You blame genetics. You blame lack of time. You blame your lack of willpower. You blame stress. You blame every one and everything but yourself – because people just don’t understand – you’ve tried EVERYTHING. Sound familiar?
One of the biggest factors in reaching your goals, any goals, is your mindset and attitude going into the process. If you are looking to lose weight with a “diet” mentality (I’m going to suffer through this for a little bit to lose weight as fast as I can so I can go back to living a “normal” life), then you are doomed for failure and might as well not waste your time. If you are trying to jump into a healthy lifestyle to better your life – AWESOME – but there is a lot more to it than just making a decision to eat a little cleaner. First of all, you need to figure out why you gained the weight in the first place. Ok, so you may be thinking, well I just eat like crap that’s why. That might be true – but WHY do you eat like crap? Is it because that’s just what you buy? Do your spouse and kids insist on certain processed foods? Do you buy processed foods for convenience? Do you socialize a lot and eat out? Do you eat for comfort? Do you not really understand what to buy or make? These are all questions you have to figure out. You were not born overweight. There were factors that brought you to this place and you need figure out what they were and how you are going to change them.
Over the past two years I have read a lot of books and I’m currently in the process of finishing off 3 more before the year-end. When I lost my weight over a year ago, it was a result of a lot of things 1)Better nutrition 2)A better perspective and 3)TONS of support. Without #2 & #3, I would have failed like I had every other time I tried to lose weight. While what you eat is VERY important, I’ve seen lots of people eat really clean and still struggle? Why? Because their perspective on life is wrong. So how did I get a better perspective? I worked on personal development. I had to figure out why I craved the foods I did. I had to stop the negative self talk. I had to build confidence to go to the gym. I had to surround myself with positive like-minded people and pull away from those who tempted me with negative attitudes, poor food choices and stress. I had to find my purpose. Once I did that, the decision to eat healthier became easier. Going to the gym was no longer something I “had” to do, but something I wanted to do for me. I found motivation through motivating others. I found happiness and confidence because I rediscovered my self-worth and surrounded myself who believed in me. I learned to believe in myself.
The new year is coming and many will have the same resolution as every other year – this is going to be the year they take charge of their health and lose weight. I want to encourage you to shift your focus and make a resolution that this is the year you take charge of your health – but not just physically, but mentally and emotionally as well. I am certain you will have far greater results in all aspects of your life and you will be amazed at the difference from previous years.
Here is a pinterest board of just some of the books I have read over the past two years. I wasn’t keeping track before, but I am now 🙂